Just Feel it You are in your Parents Position ,have to spend your Rest Life away from your HOME.

Its crystal clear that you hv taken the decision to put them at old age home after a long and painful thought process. Just wait for six months or so and review once again then. Just imagine you bring them back and then get irriatations frequently for some reason or the other . That will solve nobody's problems. You are feeling bad that your mom is not comfortable . Well that's the price for overall equilibrium . God Bless You .

my grand mother had paralysis. my mom brought her to our home and took care of her till her last breath. we had many problems. my dad was not here with us ,we also had financial problems but what really kept my mom going was the immense love my mom had for her mother. you can't even imagine what we have gone through in that period.sometime s she used to get sick at midnight so we used to rush her to the hospital stay awake the whole night sometimes this used to continue for a month coz she use to fall sick every month. what really keeps a person going is the love for the other person that too your mother!!! just remember the nine months she kept you inside her without complaining about the problems that she went through, just remember all those sleepless nights she went through coz of you. she got you married gave you a good life if she wanted she could have also thrown you away just as you did with her. what she needs now is love she needs you!.my grand ma passed away last year ,now when i see my mom crying for her mother i realize that when people you love the most leave you and go away how you feel but at least my mom is satisfied that she took care of her and did every possible thing. just tell me one thing god forbid if something like this happened to your husband would you leave him in the same condition? if you can't leave a person you merely know for few years then how can you leave a person for whom you are able to breathe and see this beautiful world everyday!!!!! because later when time passes by this pain more than guilt of losing your loved ones will haunt you like hell! she loves you more than anything now you just have to understand it even if she doesn't tell you this from her mouth ............... please be with her now coz she needs you the most!!!!

Just think if they had done the same when you cried at 3am and wanted milk or when you peed in the bed just cause you were too young and did not have that much understanding. I am sure if you think about the same it will help you take the right decision.

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